There are truths about life that nobody wants to hear but you will have to face at one point in life. The sooner you realize these things the better since they will improve the quality of your life drastically. There will be more truths that I forgot but you can always use Google to find out more of them or add them in the comment section. Don’t forget that I’m only 27. You can’t expect a blueprint of life here because just like everybody else I don’t have one. These are the truth that I figured out over time just by living life.
A truth about life: You will die one day and it might be today.
In the West, we have a very unhealthy view of death. People don’t talk about it or try to avoid it but the reality is that you will die and you don’t know when. I was confronted with this for the first time around 2015 when a girl that I knew died. She just died in her sleep because of heart failure, she was 22. Later that year I would turn my suicidal tendencies around and try to turn my whole life upside down or downside up. It depends on how you look at it. Both events made me aware of the fact that I was going to die and that I didn’t know when. That changes a lot since most people live like they will never die and this is where it gets tricky. Because you will die and you don’t know when but the same goes for your loved ones.
A truth about life: Your loved ones will die… but when?
Remember that I told you that most people live as they will live forever? I remember that in 2017 someone died in a hit and run after a party where I was as well. Back then I didn’t make a lot out of it until I noticed that my Facebook wall was exploding with the same message over and over again. The girl that had died was someone that attended my high school and was good friends with my ex-girlfriend. I wasn’t part of what happened at the party but a buddy of mine was. The group of girlfriends had a massive argument at the party and the girl left early. She got hit by a car and the argument never got resolved. I can assure you that this hurt the people who were still alive.
We all like to think we’re immortal so most people act like it. There’s a saying “never sleep on an argument”. This goes for all the relationships you have. It’s better to solve it today than tomorrow, you might end up feeling sorrow. So don’t be a dumb cunt, be a good cunt. Try to be good to your loved ones no matter how hard it is. Learn to put your ego aside, sometimes this will mean that you’ll agree to disagree. There’s nothing wrong with that, it’s a lot better than fighting over irrelevant shit that seems relevant in your eyes.
A truth about life: You will fail more than you’ll succeed.
This is something that most people don’t seem or want to realize. You will fail and you will fail way more than you will succeed in everything you do. I have for example almost 450 blog posts written since 2016, yet 10 of those have over 20000 views. You just have to keep pushing until you have what you want and it’ll be a rocky road. People who don’t realize this get discouraged quickly and give up.
The same goes for my fighting career. I lost my last 2 fights and I only have 3 fights. I could stop here and now or I could prove to myself what I already know. My next fight will be a rematch and the outcome will be different I can guarantee you that.
So stop assuming you’ll be an overnight success. Own your obstacles along the way until you have what you want.
A truth about life: Not having common sense makes you weak in our society.
Common sense is highly important in our modern-day society. We live in a day in age where there is a shit ton of bullshit floating around. Having the common sense to spot it or at least question it and doing your research is highly important. Otherwise, you’ll soon start to do weird lifestyle hacks and living in a constant state of fear due to the media.
Common sense is a superpower, make sure you use it or develop it.
A truth about life: There is no such thing as the one.
There are around 7.8 billion people on planet earth right. 7.8 billion and people still believe that out of all those people one will be the one true love. The idea is entertaining but the reality is that there are good ones and bad ones. Some people will match better with you than others and at one point you might settle down with a great one but that doesn’t mean that there aren’t more out there. The idea of the one is extremely toxic. Just imagine that you break up with “the one”. You’ll be in so much unnecessary pain because you won’t be able to understand how “the one” could dumb you. She isn’t the one who got away, she is the one that never intended to stay.
Relationships need strong foundations and most people just get into a relationship because they can’t be alone. There is no foundation but these people claim to have found the one. Guess where it all goes wrong…
A truth about life: Nobody figured out life but it sells courses.
I’m always laughing when people present themselves as life coaches. Just think about it. You’re going to teach people every single aspect of life in 3 months for 6000 dollars? Oh, and you’re in your 20’s? Get outta here (read this sentence with an Italian accent)! People have a lot of questions about life and we’ll never figure life out. We like the idea that it’s possible though and that’s why these life coaches are so popular these days. They’re scam artists that make easy money out of miserable people. It’s sickening but those practices have been around for ages.
A truth about life: Money doesn’t make you happier if you pursue it.
Money is important but chasing money will make sure you miss out on everything in life. I know people who stay in a job they hate for a not that impressive paycheck. The number of times that I’ve been impressed by that ok paycheck is 0. The ones that earned really well were slaving away and working a lot more than 8 hours a day, which kind of evens it out in the long run since overtime was mostly not paid. The other ones had an ok paycheck and ok hours.
Why would you sell out for an ok paycheck? I quickly realized that time is a more valuable asset than money. The last thing that I’m going to do is sell my time for an ok paycheck. Most people don’t get that though. They slave away their whole life until they either get fired because they’re replaceable or retire. The result is the same they’ll quickly figure out that they lived a safe and hollow life without a lot of adventure.
A truth about life: The quest for pleasure ends with pain.
A lot of people these days are hedonistic in their approach to life. They all have fun in the short run but they slowly hurt themselves until they eventually are left with nothing but pain in the long run. I know more than one person who took this approach to life and at one point they all said the same “fack, I wasted X amount of years of my life.” For some, this means that they’ll never be able to achieve their initial dreams. For others, this will means a period of grief and regret to follow by denial or rationalization (it’s ok), and eventually, it’ll end with escapism plus more of the same. Every single action has a consequence and sooner or later you’ll have to pay the bill for what you did.
Don’t get me wrong, have some fun in life but do it with moderation. The most fulfilling things in life give your joy after your struggle. Don’t believe me? What feels better a good workout or skipping that workout to watch Netflix? Netflix will be fun initially but you’ll feel tired and unfulfilled afterward. The workout might suck at first but you’ll feel great afterward. That’s why there’s a saying: instant gratification will lead to long-term frustration.
I have trouble believing that people like this life a fulfilled life since they’re always chasing pleasure. I wouldn’t do it but you can do whatever you want.
A brief lesson in history.
I have one more thing that I want to share before I go on to the next truth of life. History sadly enough always repeats itself. This is why we have the 3 generation rule. The first generation builds up society and is the toughest. The second generation grows up in a better time and will be softer. The third generation grows up in so much comfort that they become so soft that they ruin society. Hedonism has always been the downfall of great societies. Maybe it’s time we learn from history instead of repeating it?
A truth about life: Actions speak louder than words.
So many people claim they’re going to do a lot of great things but 99% of them will never even start. That’s just a reality, they’re just talking about doing it because they don’t believe in themselves. Many people fall for this but there is a great rule when it comes to this behavior: the medium is the message. Just look at people’s actions instead of listening to what they have to say. You can’t hide your intentions forever. You can, however, lie forever. That’s how politicians make their careers. They’re a bunch of well-paid clowns wearing expensive and they will lie to get what they want. That’s why I judge people on their actions instead of their words.
A truth about life: Most people never change.
Most people never change, that’s why I’m very skeptical about giving people a second chance. I’ve done it but in the end, they all tried to pull off the same shit again. This isn’t just about behavior, this is also about how you view the world, group of friends, your beliefs and so on. People who view the world the same as they did 30 years ago wasted 30 years. The same goes for your beliefs. Why don’t you try to challenge your beliefs?! Are you afraid to be wrong? Can’t your ego handle it? Are your beliefs a part of your identity now?
Why don’t you change who you are if you don’t like who you are? I’ll tell you why because you’re comfortable with the shitty version of yourself. It’s not too bad and not too good either. You rationalize the shit you don’t like about yourself and exaggerate the stuff you like about yourself.
A truth about life: Everything worth having requires “work”.
I have no clue what you want in life but I can assure you that it’ll require “work”. It’ll require daily effort and that idea is something that people don’t like because they never find something they like. You’ll never work again if you find something you love. But then the million-dollar question arises: what do I love?
That is something we’ll cover in another blog.
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Till next time.
Alex
