Do you have good friends or toxic friends? The answer might surprise you. You’ll always have some toxic friend in your group so it’s better that you recognize them. Those people will use you when they need too and drop you when they want too. I have a small circle of friends and it’s my own choice. I don’t need many friends, to be honest. Most people are trying to be surrounded by people all the time and that’s why you can have some toxic friends. There’s a bigger chance that you’ve got them if you’ve got a big circle of friends. You’re completely fucked if you’re not able to be alone.
You’ll try all sorts of escapism and you won’t even realize it. So let’s take a look at how you can recognize your good friends.
Toxic friends vs good friends: their vision on your success
Have you ever achieved something? Of course, you have! Even a small achievement is an achievement. Good friends will celebrate your success and be happy for you. They’ll be the first ones who call you when they hear some good news.
Toxic friends, on the other hand, will always be jealous of your achievements. It doesn’t take much to know if they’re jealous. You just have to look at their faces. You can spot their jealousy from a mile away. Those people will also celebrate it when you fail at something. They’re a bunch of pussies that become happy when others suffer. The sad thing is that there are a lot of people like this. How can you celebrate it when somebody else losses? It doesn’t make any sense.
Toxic friends vs good friends: and your alone time
We all like some alone time but only good friends will respect this. They’ll know that you’ve got other things to do as well. I’m training, blogging, reading every day and people respect it. Sometimes I’ll arrive a bit later than all the others at a party because I was still busy. Nobody ever complained about it. They mostly ask what I was working on.
Toxic friends want to occupy all your time. They don’t respect your alone time. Those people are bored and are looking for entertainment. They’ll call you as soon as they’re alone or know that they’ll be alone. They don’t get that you don’t have time and feel offended by it. You can easily hear this on the phone. They’re annoyed by the fact that they’ll have to look for entertainment somewhere else.
Toxic friends vs good friends: your shortcomings
Nobody is perfect but good friends won’t point out your shortcomings. They’re there for you when you need them. They’ll never criticize you about dumb things.
Toxic friends will make fun of you whenever they can. They’ll attack your clothing style, blog (it gave me a blog post though), sport and so on. They just hate on whatever they can. Why do you ask? Because they’re miserable, small-minded people. Don’t take it personally since it’s not even worthy to think about.
Toxic friends vs good friends: opinions
You’ll never have a real fight with good friends over opinions. You’ll have disagreement but you’ll sort things out and laugh about it in the end. They’re not arguing to protect their ego. We all have different views on things so we should respect them. They’ll listen to your opinions and share theirs.
Toxic friends, on the other hand, don’t care about you or your opinion. They just want to win the argument. It’s like a dick measuring contest. They’re part of the normal people and they assume that they’re an expert in everything. I avoid sharing opinions at all costs with these people since they don’t care about it anyways. They’ve got a tunnel vision and will do everything to prove you wrong.
Toxic friends vs good friends: and what you claim
Good friends believe the stories that you tell them. Yes, even the stories that you’ve read on the internet. They enjoy them as well.
Toxic friends will doubt every word you say and will double-check everything. Google is their best friend.
Toxic friends vs good friends: your choices
Most people might not know that I’m almost sober for a whole year. I wasn’t addicted to alcohol but I didn’t need it anymore. I didn’t need it to escape my reality. There’s no intention to touch alcohol ever again. So good friends respected my choice. They didn’t care about it since it didn’t change me as a person.
Toxic friends, on the other hand, called me a pussy and asked me what was wrong with me. They’ll never respect choices that they wouldn’t do. Some people will never change.
Do you have toxic friends?
You do? It’s better to get rid of them or make sure that you only see them in a group of people. In this way, you’ll make your life a lot more enjoyable. Make the change before it’s too late.
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