Have you ever thought about the stages of life? I’m not talking about getting married and getting kids and so on. That’s what society is telling you to do. Those made-up rules make people pretty miserable. That’s what happens when you follow the herd. People are eagerly focusing on others. They always like to improve other people’s lives but they rarely look at their own life. I’m pretty sure that most people don’t get past the first stage of the stages of life. How am I so sure you ask? Well because most people just don’t seem to be able to learn a lesson in life.
Some people make the same mistake over and over again for years in a row. These people get frustrated over time and then they make a crucial mistake. They suddenly feel cheated by life. That’ll solve everything! That’s the approach that you need to take when you want to improve your life! That kind of mindset will make sure that you’ll never progress.
The stages of life: it all starts with suffering.
There will be a point in life where you’ll suffer and I mean suffer. Just read my life story, it all started with a big amount of suffering. Victor Frankl even talked about this in his book ‘Man’s search for meaning‘. There are even people who claim that the meaning of life is suffering. Which might be their perspective but I have another one. I get where their vision comes from though. Life is meaningless and dark according to them and this is a dangerous state of mind. These people are bitter and resentful.
I think it’s a stage in life that even will reoccur from time to time. It’s pretty simple. You can’t grow in life if you’re not experiencing a loss in life. That’s just how it is. This isn’t tough, this is life. You just have to take it head-on and keep on standing. There’s no other way around it. Get bitter or get better, that’s just how it is. People who turn bitter can’t make people better around them and that’s just sad.
The stages of life: did you get bitter or better?
I’ll explain later on how you get better but let’s take a look at what happens to people who get bitter. People who get bitter get stuck in the first stage because they’ll cause more and more suffering without even realizing it. I did this as well. It’s something that a lot of people do. Those people claim that they’re born to attract bad luck which is a dangerous state of mind because you’ll attract it for sure in this way. The law of attraction is real. Your thoughts create your reality. There are tons of quotes about this and still, people manage to fil their life and head with nothing but misery and negative thoughts.
These are the people who’ll hate and doubt everybody else. They’re just projecting their insecurities onto you but they don’t get it. Don’t get bitter and resentful! Get better. You should celebrate the highs and the low of life. In other words: don’t let the highs go to your head and don’t let the lows get to your heart.
The danger of this state of mind
Things that you do a lot become a habit over time and bad habits are habits as well. So it’ll become harder and harder to get rid of this mindset. People who’re in this state of mind for a long time claim that this is just the way they are. This could be true but that doesn’t mean that they can’t become a better version of themselves. Don’t make excuses, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment.
The stages of life: pain should be fuel.
So what if you don’t get bitter and resentful? Well, first you give the pain a proper place of course. That’s important. But then you’ll probably find what caused the issue and tackle it. This can lead to the fact that you find a purpose in life. That’s the key difference between a happy and depressed person. The depressed person doesn’t have a purpose in life. So it’s safe to say that the period of pain is followed by happiness and enlightenment.
Try to find a purpose in life instead of solving a problem!
The stages of life: but what happens then?
Well, I assume that you’ll go back to a situation where you’ll face pain. That’s just how I experienced it so far. It just comes after one another and you never know how long a certain stage will take. For some people, the pain stage takes way too long. It can take years or a whole lifetime. I just noticed that you mostly face new and more difficult problems as you solve the old ones. The stages of pain are followed up by stages of growth and it’s a never-ending cycle. You’re screwed if you stop learning in life. But that’s the problem. Most people assume that they’ve got it all figured out. Which is stupid and extremely arrogant.
You’ll need to be able to learn until you die. That’s the beauty of life is you ask me.
The stages of life: do you see a pattern here?
Both stages are opposites of each other. Doesn’t that remind you of something? Yin and yang! These things aren’t separate from each other. They’re separate together. They can’t exist without each other. Well, they can but there will be zero balance. That’s when life gets completely out of whack.
The stages of life: this applies to everything.
These stages apply to everything. The highs and the lows of life can be found in relationships, friendships, personal life, jobs, sports and so on. You could be facing a high in a relationship but facing a low in your career. So you could face these stages in every aspect of your life but at different timings. It’s up to you to find a balance because in the end life’s all about balance remember?!
Oh and more thing: never quit. You might think that it’s the easy way out but those problems will catch up with you eventually.
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