I knew I was in trouble when I said the following sentence: You live life …… and then you die. I shared this sentence with someone who didn’t have a clue what he was going to die. That’s when shit hit the fan. Most people deny it and that’s just wrong. But I did it as well in the past. I was a bit delusional because I never thought about death. I just figured that it would happen one day. This was a bit arrogant since that one day could be tomorrow, next week… You just don’t know. People avoid thinking about the unknown and that’s why they probably avoid the fact that they’re going to die.
Alex another post about the fact that we’re going to die?
I already wrote 3 blogs about this matter so people might start asking questions. I’ll assume that this is going to be the last one but you never know off course. There’s a reason why I came up with this blog post. Recently a girl died who I met briefly in the past. I didn’t know her that well. But that doesn’t change the fact that it’s pretty sad to realize that such a young person died (she must have been 21-22). This made me think about several things, to be honest. I’ll cover them all. But first, we’ve got to go back in the past.
You live life …… and then you die: a trip back in time with Lil alpha
Lil Alpha sounds like a cool nickname for a rapper. Too bad that I can’t sing or rap. Anyway, let’s talk about Lil alpha for a while. I probably used every single form of escapism when I was younger. I used to game a lot to avoid reality but I also did tons of sport for the same reason. So I did what most people do. I was trying to avoid discomfort. This all worked out till I couldn’t escape my problems anymore. I felt trapped in my own body. I felt like a piece of shit. My mind wasn’t a happy place but I couldn’t escape it anymore. Suddenly you arrive at a point where you’re like “fuck, I fucked up this time”.
You just get the inevitable reality check. And that’s where you need to realize that the cure for the pain is in the pain. I realized that death was inevitable not long after that. The strange part was that I didn’t freak out about it. It made me a lot more peaceful as a person. But my whole perspective about life changed. I realized that I wasn’t afraid of death in the past, I had been afraid to live. That’s when everything changed.
You live life …… and then you die: stop overthinking everything
I used to overthink everything in the past. But I still tend to think a bit too much but it’s a lot better these days. I’m just an analytical thinker but I recently figured out how to shut it down a bit. I did it by thinking about death. So here’s my reasoning: death is inevitable. You can’t escape or cheat it. So why would you focus on dumb stuff like the opinion of others? Why would you complain weeks about the fact that you got rejected? Why would you hate so much on other people? Would you still hate your ex? Would you do the same things if you knew that you would die tomorrow?
I don’t think so. People would be a lot more peaceful if they realized that their time on this earth was limited.
I just realized that I was avoiding discomfort in the past because I didn’t want to be hurt. So I was avoiding life with this behavior. I stopped drinking alcohol not long after I had that insight. I’ve been sober ever since.
But it doesn’t end there
Recently someone asked me why I was still single and this question got me thinking. I suddenly realized that the answer to this question would give me insight. It struck me not long after that. Since my last dates with the same girl, which didn’t end well, I was avoiding it. I just didn’t realize it until recently (wait till you hear how long it took me to figure it out). The pain of the last date gave me a “fuck this attitude” but that didn’t solve the problem. I learned my lesson after those series of dates pretty quickly but I didn’t do anything with it. This is pretty dumb because I’m sure that I wouldn’t make the same mistake twice. Well, it took me about 1 year and 2 months to figure this out. I don’t regret it though.
It’s a good thing instead of a bad thing. I was very productive in this period. I just turned the odds in my favor. This isn’t a failure because I learned the lesson anyway. It just took a lot of time and I had other priorities. Welcome to the big show that’s called life. You learn stuff and you move on. You don’t come up with lame excuses like most others do. You’re going to die anyway so you better make the most out of it.
You live life …… and then you die: stop giving a fuck about…
So many people tend to give fucks about things that don’t matter. They just prioritize extremely dumb, irrelevant things. That’s all because they just don’t know how to spend their time wisely. People’s vision tends to change when they realize that they’re going to die. They’ll take things lighter and start living more. I mean you can party all you want but I doubt that you’ll feel fulfilled at the end of your life. Those are the people who judge others who won’t party that much.
Some people hate on others for dumb stuff. There are even people who want to bring others down because they feel threatened by other people’s progress. Is it all worth it? Do you want to be remembered as a hateful person with anger issues? Will that be your legacy? I hate to break it to you but I wonder if people will miss you when you’re gone.
You live life …… and then you die: so what’s the point?
Well it’s your life and in the end, others can give you tons of advice but it doesn’t matter. Only you can know what you want and only you decide how you can live your life. The one thing that I stopped doing is giving other people advice. Even when they’re in a similar situation like me. You don’t know how they feel in a certain situation so stop acting like you feel what they feel. It’s bullshit. I learned that people need to ask for advice before they’ll value it. Still, so many people try to give others advice but they don’t look from the same perspective as the other person. Perception defines your reality but that doesn’t mean that you’re always right.
Break the rules and beat the fools: some advice
I’m going to end this post with some advice. You’re free to do whatever you want. It’s more common sense, to be honest. Most people just neglect them.
Marry someone you love. Be together with someone you can’t live without. It’s that simple.
Do what you love and love what you do. Others might not like it but who cares. It’s your life, not theirs. Just don’t do dumb stuff that might get you in trouble or nearly killed.
Support others when they try something new instead of holding them down. Stop projecting your insecurities on other people!
Live a happy and healthy life! It’s not that hard.
Don’t avoid pain. Embrace it. Things like rejection aren’t that bad. Those things are just part of life.
So many people are living in hell. They married the wrong person, hate their job, gave up everything they liked without a reason,… You can’t blame them for being so angry all the time but maybe they’ve forgotten that they are going to die one day. I’m pretty sure that these people would turn their life around if they fully realized it. The only problem is that some people will keep on denying it till they die. It’s sad but for 99% of the people, it’s also true.
One of the most important things in life
One of the things that I think is the most important in life is being able to combine your true intuition (how you feel, how you think) with what you do and how you represent yourself. This is probably the constant battle that everybody has. I like to be aware of those kinds of things because most people aren’t.
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