Your self-worth shouldn’t be bound to anything and I’m here to explain to you why. You see a lot of people’s whole identity is bound to things or sports or sometimes even other people (things like being popular). You might know someone like that and I’m pretty sure that we’ve all been a victim of it. I know at least that I’ve been a victim of it. That’s just me being honest though. Most people don’t realize it until it’s too late. They suddenly fall into a deep dark hole and it’s hard to get out. I have experience with that as well. Your whole world can fall apart at that very instant. You’ll feel empty so it’s best to avoid that.
Let me start this blog with a great question that I got recently: “So Alex, what are you without your fancy blog and your MMA?”
Let’s talk about your self-worth.
“So Alex, what are you without your fancy blog and your MMA?”. Well, ambitious, handsome, philanthropist, confident, funny, purposeful… the list can go on and on but I can summon it in two words as well: still me. I’ll still be the same guy because my self-worth isn’t bound to my sport (it was in the past) or my blog. I assume that we all make the mistake to link our own identity to something. We hit a certain low and find something new that get’s us back in the spotlight. That’s just not fulfilling and you won’t realize it until…… it’s getting taken away.
This is why some athletes get back from retirement even if they shouldn’t. Their identity is bound to the sport and they have nothing else to live for. This leads to depression and the eventual return that shouldn’t have happened in the first place.
Let’s talk about your self-worth. The problem is this…
The problem is that people’s identities can be bound to so many things. It can be materialistic but also linked to sports, body, popularity with girls… The list goes on and on. The worst thing is that these people don’t get it. They don’t get that your self- worth should be determined by anything else besides themselves. I mean I love MMA but there will be a point in life where I’ll be too old to do it. Then I’ll have to find something else that gives me the same joy again. Of course, I’ll miss it but there’s just a time and a place for everything. I just needed an injury to realize this.
Materialistic people have the same problem if you ask me. Some of them just like to show off with one or more luxurious items. The problem is stuff gives you a strange kind of happiness. You buy something new and get hyped just like everybody else but the effect fades away and everybody get’s used to it so the object loses its value. Well until you lose it of course because then it’s like you’ve lost a part of your identity.
In conclusion: your self-worth…
You’re not your car or your sport or your body or your likes on social media or whatever you link your self- worth too. You should be able to be true to you even when everything gets taken away from you. Life will remain a frustrating series of events if you link your self- worth to other things than yourself. Just because you’re chasing momentary happiness.
You’re acting like Smeagol from Lord Of The Rings. Everything is linked to “the precious”.
So tell me, who are you when everything gets taken away from you? What remains of you? Are you a pile of misery or still the same person?
A book recommendation to end the blog.
Read Lewis Howes, The Mask Of Masculinity to find out more about this matter. I finished the book in 2 days. It’s a great read and it might be the reality check that most people need(buy it here).
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