Looking to find the right wife? I’ve got you covered (wife not included). Ever heard of the saying “happy wife equals happy life”? Does that sound right in your opinion? What if she isn’t the right wife? I think that it’s safe to say that we’ve been all in a relationship with the wrong person or at least dated someone like that. That person can be someone who’s never satisfied and trying to please them is a never-ending cycle of problems. How can you be happy if you’re constantly focusing on someone else’s happiness? You’ll constantly have to make sacrifices which will make you more and more miserable.
Do you know what the irony behind that whole situation is? You’ll end up single anyway. Not picking the right wife will lead to an extremely horrible life. Do you want to end up that way? Life’s too short to be miserable. I prefer to be happy single than unhappy together and that’s most people wouldn’t do. They prefer to be unhappy together because they’re afraid. They’re afraid to leave their partner and their comfort zone. These people just can’t be alone.
Sometimes you need to face failure before you can achieve something great. Great Achievement Street is just around the corner of Failure Street. You just need to walk and keep on walking. Most people just sit down and cry their whole damn life. Others give in to all the hate and eventually settle down for less.
You need to know what you want to pick the right wife but…
You can’t pick the right wife if you have no clue what you want in life. Everything will suffice if you don’t have a sense of direction. That’s where most people go wrong. They’ll always tell you the same when you ask them to describe their perfect wife. She has to be handsome, funny and she has to know how to cook. I’ve met a lot of women who are handsome, funny and were able to cook but that doesn’t mean that I want to date them. Sometimes it takes just one date to realize that she’s not the one. 99.9% of those women wouldn’t be the right wife. Maybe for someone else but not for me.
There’s a good reason why I know that 99.9% of them wouldn’t be the right wife. I know what I’m looking for and I’m one 100% certain that I’m going to find her.
You also need to know what you don’t want
I have no clue how you spend your time but I blog, read and train a lot. So almost every girl that parties a lot is out of the question. I don’t drink alcohol so a girl who drinks a lot or tells me that I’m boring won’t be the right fit for me. I’m eating healthy so a girl who constantly eats unhealthy and asks me to do the same is not the right girl for me.
Do you get where I’m going? You need to know what you want but also what you don’t want. You’ll end up dating a lot of women if you have no clue what you want. It may sound fun at first but it gets frustrating after a while. I have had this problem myself so I know what I’m talking about.
You need a happy life to meet the right wife
You can’t make someone else happy if you’re not happy. You’ll attract depressed people if you’re straight-up depressed. That’s how the law of attraction works. When I went from depressed to being me again I lost a lot of friends but in the end, I just lost all the complainers, victims and party animals. They all lost interest in me but it was for the better in my case. I just had more time to focus on things that mattered. The things that mattered to me. I noticed that girls and people, in general, are curious about the fact that I’m working a lot on my laptop. You become an interesting person when you’ve got a clear goal in your life.
It took me a year to realize what I wanted in life. It was a year where had to sacrifice a lot but I wanted to pay the price. I wanted to do whatever it took to become happy again. This resulted in one date in 2016. That’s right, I dated one girl several times and it didn’t end well. I know guys who had more dates in one week than me but that’s okay. It’s all about priorities in life. Just realize that your party life will end soon or later. You’ll lose a relation if you can’t get your priorities straight.
People set priorities when they get older and some people even more than others. Most party guys won’t get laid that often anymore. It will only work if you’re rich, famous or both. You’ll get a normal job, probably get out of shape and become straight up depressed within the following 5 years.
Unhappiness makes you do dumb shit
There are just too many people who aren’t true to their selves. They never reach their best selves and go from one relationship to the other. They’re constantly looking happiness outside of themselves. They’re not realizing that unhappiness makes them do crazy stupid shit.
You need to believe that you’re going to meet the right wife
This may sound stupid but you need to believe in something before something happens. Ever saw a world-class athlete who didn’t believe in his capabilities? Have you ever saw someone with low self- esteem nail a presentation in front of a large audience? The examples are endless but you probably get where I’m going. Believing in something will make it happen. It might not happen, IT WILL HAPPEN.
But Alex how long does it take? It takes how long it takes. That’s a question that only the inpatient people will ask. They are all craving for the instant gratification, they don’t want to wait. Everything has to go quick and the quicker the better. Those people end up in a bad relationship or even multiple bad relationships and they don’t get why. They’re constantly complaining about the fact they’re doomed or cursed but the only thing that’s cursed is their mentality.
Don’t be a pussy. Read this blog post and pick up the books that I recommended, they’ll put some hair on your chest. In the end, that’s what most men are lacking.
Realize that it takes time to learn to know the right wife
Most guys go on dates and want to go way to fast. They assume that you should kiss her on the first date but that doesn’t mean that you’re in a relationship. Most guys tend to forget that they’re not in their teens anymore. Dating in your mid-twenties is a lot different, that’s at least what I noticed. They become needy after a while and end up alone again. Most guys just don’t know how they should date. It’s great to be different than all the others, being normal is so freaking boring.
Dating you’re doing it completely wrong
Why don’t you date and keep on dating? Just have a good time and see what happens. Most people put way too much pressure on dates. They’re making it so complicated while it’s pretty simple. They treat it like mathematics or physics. Keep on spending time together if you’re having a good time as soon as you’re together. Besides dating is pretty fun. It’s a process that could take a very long time but in the end, it’s worth it. You should appreciate the fact that this might be the wife of your children. Most guys give up if they’re not getting laid after the second date. Those guys are freaking pussies. Real men know what they want and do everything to get it. They work hard and invest time in that one girl. That’s the difference between a boy and a man.
I’ve noticed that women tend to make the same mistake. They tell a guy that they’re not interested but after a while they regret it. They try to decide things way to fast and that can haunt them after a while. So you could kiss on the first date but taking things slow isn’t a bad thing either. It all depends on the person you’re dating.
Some quality advice
Most guys are looking for “the signs” to kiss a girl. Things like body language and so on. This sounds logical but you can’t be present at the moment. How can you pay attention to what someone is saying when you’re constantly checking for the signs? Learn to be present at the moment and you’re halfway there. So you’re probably wondering what the other half is? You need to learn to be present and listen with your eyes. You’ve could have kissed her already if you’re thinking that you could have done it. I made this mistake as well. Looking for “the signs” doesn’t work that well since we’re all different.
Don’t make this mistake once you’re together
Some guys get in a relationship and take it for granted. They have a girl which you don’t find that often anymore these days and they completely blow it. They nag once they have to see her 4 times instead of 3 times a week. The struggle must be real. Those guys and up single and regret the fact that they lost that girl. I’ve seen more than enough guys like this.
Taking things for granted is extremely stupid. You’ll lose it all before you know it.
How do I know that I found the right wife?
Just listen to your gut feeling and you’ll know that you’ve found the right wife. There’s nothing better than listening to your gut. Most people are freaking afraid to do this and they end up and stay in the wrong relationship. Do you want to be the guy that ends up divorced with 2 kids? A broken marriage is no fun for no one and the kids will suffer the most. Staying together for the kids is no solution either. They know that you’re constantly fighting. They’re not stupid. I don’t want to have that kind of marriage. I want to stay together with the mother of my children until I die.
You’ll notice right from the start that she’s the one. You have an immediate connection and don’t have to ask where you’re in relation at the moment. Some people ask each other if they’re together at some point but the good couples just roll with it. They become friends and become lovers but they remain friends till the end of their days. It’s pretty funny that I’m writing about this subject since I’m single for more than 3 years and my longest relationship was about 2 years.
The best piece of advice that I ever got
I was just together with my ex-girlfriend when an older buddy gave me some class advice. He told me that I should have a good time with friends and family if I would ever end up single again. He told me to work hard and do some sports. I didn’t get it at that time because I was way too young but I get it now.
He didn’t chase girls and was single for about 3 years. He never cared about it or he didn’t show it anyway. After those 3 years, he met a nice girl and they’re living together now. In those 3 years, he worked so hard that he already had 2 houses by the time he met her. She’s not one of the girls that partied around and fucked around all day. He found his soulmate and now it’s my and your time to do the same.
Make sure that you find the right wife. It’s a shame but if you end up with the wrong wife. You’re the one to blame when it happens.
Don’t settle for less if you want to meet the right wife
Some people are extremely afraid to end up alone. I assume that it’s a modern-day disease but it’s real. Those people will always settle for less. They just pick up the first girl that comes on their path. You’ll ruin your chances to meet the right wife if you’re settling for less. Most people need to go through 3 divorces and a lot of pain before they realize this. They’re 50 and finally, realize how dating and relationships work. So you’ve won 25 years if you’re getting what I’m trying to teach you. You’ll end up raising your kids with the mother of your children. It must be the best feeling in the world.
You can be ambitious all you want but your life is not complete when you’re not a loving father and husband. That’s at least my opinion.
Marrying the right wife
Most people are afraid to marry their long term girlfriend. They freeze as soon as they hear the word marriage. Most people tell you that you should never take a tattoo with your wife’s name. The most entertaining part is that they all claim that they’ve met the one. Other people marry but get second thoughts as soon as the big day arrived. It’s so sad. You should be happy and excited for the big day and not afraid. Why should you be afraid of a great future and a great life? Most people will never end up in a great marriage and they still try it.
I recently heard a great quote about the right wife: “Marriage is not about finding a person you can live with, it’s about finding the person you can’t live without.” There are a lot of people who’re doing the exact opposite. Just realize that you’ll have to face the consequences once you’re living with a person that you can live with. Those are the couples that go to a restaurant or bar and just stare at each other.
Bottom line: be mister Alpha instead of Mister Grey
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Alex
