The nice guy will always finish last. This is a saying that so many guys don’t seem to get. They don’t know how to act these days so they act like a nice guy or the wannabe tough guy. Those guys want to be liked by everybody but they don’t realize that this behavior has the opposite effect. Those guys finish last due to their actions. People will walk over them and they’ll have no clue why it happened. Those guys crumble when a girl tells them that they’re “such a nice guy”. You know what this means right? You’ve just entered the friend zone once again my friend. You’re just one of the guys. Good luck getting out of that situation. Spoiler alert: you won’t.
Nice guys and their behavior
Nice guys assume that you’ll return a favor to them as soon as they do you a favor. The problem is that most people don’t get this. They assume that these guys are just being friendly. Opening the door is being friendly so how can you expect a favor in return? This is where they all get it wrong. Doing something for another person while expecting something in return is a selfish act. You’ll also be extremely disappointed when you didn’t get what you wanted. The most known example is when you go clubbing and a guy buys drinks for a girl and sometimes even for her friends. You’re paying to get her attention. Some will like it and use you to get more drinks while others will see right through your act.
I made this mistake as well when I was younger. It was just something that society told me to do. Girls laugh at this and that’s why you should stop chasing girls. The guy that chases girls is just wasting time. Besides most girls don’t even like it when you buy them drinks since they know that you’re expecting something.
The nice guy in a relationship
Nice guys are often in a toxic relationship and that’s no surprise. These guys want to help others so they’ll attract girls with tons of problems. Their self- image is bound to the fact that they can help others and that where it all goes wrong. The other person keeps on playing the victim so the guy can be the knight on his white horse ready to save her. He enforces her behavior even more and the sad part is that he doesn’t like that behavior at all. The nice guy will complain about it all the time to others. He doesn’t see that his behavior is keeping the whole relation toxic. Welcome to the comfort zone, my friend.
The nice guy shouldn’t turn into an asshole
The cure for the pain is always in the pain. You can’t change a situation till you reached a point where you’ve had it. So some nice guys will snap out of their dogma but turn into complete assholes. They’ll act like jerks to women which isn’t a solution as well. You should work on yourself before you start dating again. You can’t keep on portraying your jerk act forever. It’ll be exposed soon or later. But you can’t become softer as well since you can’t soften something that’s already soft.
I guess that you’re full of questions now? Good since I can answer them all at once. You should read “The Way Of The Superior Man” by David Deida (buy it here). This book will help you become a better bolder man. I finished this book in one sitting. In the end, you have chosen how you want to live your life but do you want to be in a toxic relationship? Do you want to be run over by everybody? I don’t think so. Act before it’s too late.
So no more mister nice guy
No more mister clean
No more mister nice guy
They say he’s sick, he’s obscene
Alice Cooper got what I tried to tell you.
Update: the nice guy is an asshole
The nice guy is an asshole, he just doesn’t know it. Most people don’t realize this. The nice guy is only nice to girls that are hot in his opinion. He’ll help a hot girl in a certain situation but he won’t do it for a less attractive girl in that same situation. A nice guy is nice to everybody and doesn’t act like a nice guy to get laid. So you’re a fake person but you still nag about the fact that girls don’t like you. How can you even be surprised?
I knew a guy like this in college
There was a guy who attended classes with me from time to time. He was constantly complaining about the fact that he was single and that he didn’t get why. He was the ultimate white knight in his own opinion. But he didn’t get why girls wanted to date “assholes”. Well, I get it. He was a part of the pussy generation. He always claimed that he would never help a less attractive girl if she was in trouble. He was a freaking asshole and that’s why he wasn’t able to get a relationship. So what can we conclude? He played an active and it got exposed.
So next time that you hear a guy claim that he’s a nice guy who doesn’t get that he can’t get girls you’ve got to realize that you’re dealing with an asshole. He might sound tough but he isn’t.
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