Have you ever noticed that people neglect the little things in life? That’s pretty sad since life is all about the little things. You don’t believe me, do you? Let’s take the test, shall we! How many grand gestures can you remember? Not a lot right? How many small gestures can you remember? Well, I know that you’ll probably say none. I’m pretty aware of this fact but which one had the most impact on you? That big or the small one? The answer is simple: it’s the little things that matter in life. You might appreciate the big things more because they give you momentary happiness or boost your ego big time.
Is life all about the little things?
Let me just debunk it right here and right now. Yes, they matter because the little things add up in life. They become big things over time. Let me explain. Imagine that you want to change your life, which is not easy by the way. Do you think that you can get it back on track by doing something big? The answer is pretty simple: NO! That’s just impossible. You need to start with small things (like starting to read for example). After that you start to get up earlier, you start to train and get your diet slowly in check and so on. The whole process might take a very long time but the result is worth it. You just have to be patient. Take it to step by step and the result will follow.
Enter the modern-day relationships.
Most modern-day relationships are doomed right from the start. Let us compare 2 relationships. The first one is a normal relationship. The guy goes effort and slowly decreases his effort over time. He flirts with other women to boost his self- esteem and doesn’t spend too much time with his girlfriend/wife. He only does it on Valentine’s day and their anniversary and then they both make sure that everybody has seen it. Livin the instalife with the unhappy wife.
The second one is where the guy does effort but keeps on doing it every single day. Just by doing small stuff. They rarely share their highlights but everybody sees that they’re happy. They don’t have to prove it. They can talk to each other openly and confidently about their problems. These people won’t cheat on each other. They do effort every single day and that’s why they’re going forward. It’s all about creating momentum.
So what about the first couple you ask? Well, they create momentum as well but it isn’t forward momentum.
It took me 4 years to get my act together.
People were going nuts when they knew that I was traveling on my own for 9 days. They didn’t get how I did it but they also didn’t see all the work that I put in to get to this point. I wouldn’t have traveled on my own 6 months ago, I wouldn’t have even done it 2 months ago. In that whole period I had to make a simple choice every single day: do I live the right way or the easy way. Well, I took the easy way for the first 2 years and we all know how that ended. After that, I flipped the switch and started living the right way. It wasn’t always easy but it was the right thing to do.
I just worked until I was spiritually in check and completely happy on my own. I didn’t even for it but that was the result of all these small actions. So I guess that we can draw a pretty easy conclusion here.
You are what you do.
So what are you going to do now? Constantly tell yourself and others little lies until your life becomes one big lie? Or are you going to take positive action towards a better life?
In conclusion: sweat the small things because, in the end, they are the big things.
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