Have you ever had to deal with rejection? Of course, you have. Don’t lie to yourself. You don’t have cover model looks and you don’t have my looks so it’s normal. 99% of the people aren’t that attractive. That’s just a matter of genetics but beauty is the worst trait that you can possess in life. You’re fucked if you’re not smart as well. Most people just can’t handle rejection and completely freak out when it happens. I wrote a whole post about women and exes and some people still didn’t get it afterward. It’s pretty weird how childish people can react to rejection. Their whole world collapses and they freak out like a little bitch. It’s sad and pathetic at the same time. I have just one tip for these guys: shut up, step up and man the f@ck up.
Rejection isn’t fun but…
So I haven’t dated for quite a while as many of you know or don’t know. I haven’t dated for more than a year. I just want to effort for someone worth doing the effort for. Nothing more and nothing less. Anyway, I got back on Tinder a week before my trip to Stockholm, which led to some fun stories in Stockholm (read them here). I had a match after 3 swipes and she was my type for sure. We started talking and she quickly asked about my blog. It was a fun conversation so I asked her to meet up. I didn’t expect anything to be honest. Just go there, have fun and see what happens. We kept on talking a few days but 2 days before the date she told me that she wasn’t ready to date. Now there are two ways to react to this.
You can handle rejection like a pussy
We’re living in a sensitive pussy generation that’s just a fact. We try to act like we’re well evolved but deep down inside humanity hasn’t changed that much. We just got more comfortable and that suppresses all those instincts. Most people like to act tough though. The Vikings would laugh at our generation. So most people get angry when they get rejected. These guys offend the other person and somehow feel better than the other person. They place themselves above the other person and sometimes even mock her. They things like “I can get better than you” (which is true but more on that later). Some even will do everything to win the other person over which is just plain stupid.
The problem is that most people just can’t be alone. Their self- esteem is built around the fact that they’re popular with girls or are in a relationship that is dumb as well. Why would you act like a moron and offend another person? She doesn’t want to be with you boo hoo hoo. Don’t act like a crybaby and accept it. You’ll only get bitter and you don’t want that. You need to get better. I guess that some of you are wondering how I dealt with it.
How I handled the rejection
I wasn’t mad at her, the fact that she isn’t ready was just because I wasn’t the right person. I even thanked her for being so honest. She was surprised by my reaction which is normal I guess. Rejecting someone isn’t fun and a bit stressful as well. Those people are afraid of the reaction of the other person. You don’t want to be offended for being honest. So why was I able to process it so easily? Well, that’s because life goes on no matter what. Tomorrow there’s just another day. I just didn’t see a reason to get mad. I even hope that she meets the right person. Some people won’t get this and will never get it. It’s just a sign that they still have to mature.
Rejection and the fact that you really can get someone better.
Most people claim that they can get someone better but they mean it disrespectfully. You really can get someone better but I have a different point of view. You can get someone better because that person just doesn’t want to be with you. So you want to be with a person that wants to be with you. That’s why you can get someone better. Most people will say something like this to put the other person down to convince them to date them anyway.
By the way, you’re wasting precious time if you constantly complaining about the fact that you got rejected. You’ll die anyway so why would you waste time on something insignificant? In the end, it doesn’t even matter. You won’t remember all the rejection when you’re on your death bed.
So rejection is just a part of life?
Listen to me: rejection is a part of life. It will happen and it will happen more than once. It’s up to you how you deal with it but you better turn it into something good. That’s how you’ll become better instead of bitter. So are you ready to become a better person? Your time is now.
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