Have you ever heard the following saying: “missed opportunities are like buses, there’s always a new one coming around.” I forgot the exact saying, to be honest, but it’s something like that. The message behind the quote is easy, don’t dwell on chances you missed out on because there will always be another one right around the corner. Well technically speaking of course. There is some truth to this saying and it gives people a lot of hope (doesn’t work, more on this in a later blogpost). It’s also fair to say that a lot of people have missed out on great opportunities. It’s even fair to say that a lot of people dwell on these past mistakes and never get over them. So this whole quote got me thinking. The saying kind is understandable because there will always be new opportunities. But what if there’s a part of life that’s get neglected by this principle?

What if this saying is not so great as it might sound?! Time to find out.

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Reflections on the lost fight. On the 16th of January, it was 8 months and 2 days ago since I had won my first fight in Thailand. I kind of was still feeling the hype from that fight. I mean, a skinny inexperienced white kid fights a bigger more experienced Thai fighter and wins in the 5th round. It was almost like it was a movie scripts for a new Rocky movie. During those 8 months, people kept asking me when I would fight again and my answer was always the same. I was ready but for some reason getting a fight seemed a bit harder than expected. In Belgium, the earliest I could fight was near the ending of October, so I left Belgium once again to fight in Thailand. Eventually, I ended up back in Koh Phangan. Back to the roots. They asked me to fight as soon as I arrived and 3 weeks later I stepped into the ring. Better than ever, more confident than ever and more relaxed than ever.

the walkout was a party on its own but then… I lost after 4 rounds because they stopped the fight without a reason. The referee went to the judges and the fight went to the opposite corner. What can I say… it’s Thailand (shrugs shoulders). So there I was confused because they never let me fight that 5th round but also happy because I barely took any damage and put up a fight. So that brings us to the topic of this blog. I lost a fight and you could probably care less but I suggest you keep reading because I’m not the only one who can learn lessons from this loss.

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Have you’ve ever wondered why you’re stuck at a mediocre level in life? Or do you aspire to get more out of life than mediocrity? The thing is that it’s hard to surpass mediocrity and that’s why most people fail to do it. People mostly want instant gratification and that is not what’ll lead to great results. It’ll give you the opposite result but that’s what people fail to realize. They want a good feeling now and don’t care about the long-lasting frustration later on in life. They’re stuck at mediocrity and come up with all kinds of weird excuses why they’re not at the top in life. This slowly puts them to sleep and then the famous phrase of defeat pops up into their head. The phrase goes as follows “Well I tried everything but it won’t be for me in this lifetime”.

After that frustration and disappointment set in. But that begs the question: did you do everything? Or do you assume that you did everything? There’s a big difference between the two. A difference that could change the whole outcome of your life. Read More

It’s a sad reality but people can earn a lot of money based on your misery. It’s so easy these days to get access to people since most people use social media to compare themselves to other people. They want to see how other people are better than them. But then out of nowhere (hint: it was the algorithm), they get this ad from some guru who claims to be able to rock your life. Well, rock your life for a certain prize of course. It’s mostly way too expensive for what it is since a lot of them underperform big time. There’s just one issue, there’s no money-back guarantee and the fact that it didn’t work for you is entirely your fault. You should have listened! But is you not listening to the real issue here or is it that you were just scammed like so many other people.

Chances are that it is the latter because most gurus use a pyramid scheme. So let’s stop wasting time and dive into it.

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Having a losing tactic in life will make sure that you end up losing. It’s as easy as that yet most people don’t seem to realize this. They have this kind of tactic in life and end up complaining all the time. Life seems so unfair to them but how can one blame life?! What does life have to do with the fact that you have the wrong tactics? Why blame life about things that are in your control? You act like some things aren’t in your control while in reality, they are. This is a bad tactic on its own, something goes wrong and you blame life instead of learning a lesson. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. You try to look perfect on Instagram and take this approach when it comes to real-life but this isn’t suitable for real life. There are no fake filters in life and you’re either trying to win or avoiding to the losing streak. Guess where most people end up. They end up in the avoidance group.

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Rock bottom ain’t a bad place… People will assume I’m crazy for saying this but I stand by the quote. Rock bottom ain’t a bad place if you want to rebuild your life. It’s a tricky place to be at because things can go south easily but hear me out on this one. I’ve got multiple reasons to say this and maybe you’ll feel the same after you’ve read this blog. In the end, you can only understand what I’m about to say if you’ve been through what I’m about to say or read and reflect on what I say. Judging this post won’t help you. It’s easy to feel sorry for yourself at that dark place but it’s not worth it. You’re in a great spot and you don’t even realize it. Maybe it’s time to turn shit into sugar instead of feeling like shit all the time?!

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Welcome to the age of delusion where so-called authorities will make sure you’re in a state of constant confusion. It isn’t uncommon these days to have people who claim to be an authority while in reality, they know almost nothing about a certain subject. These types of individuals can end up costing you a lot of money, endanger your health and so on. The sad thing is that it’s hard to spot them, you have to get behind a whole ego facade to expose them… and that is the last thing they want. Those people like to live in their world of delusion and will make sure that they don’t have people who question their methods. You’ll quickly notice that the people who follow them are mostly people who’re good at following. Zero questions asked. Luckily there are ways to spot them “fast”. It took me once 2 years to figure such a person out. The fastest didn’t take me longer than 2 weeks since the person in question was avoiding me.

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How did you change your life? It’s a question that I get asked all the time since I’ve been into self-development or whatever you want to call it. That whole movement is suddenly getting a huge hype while it actually shouldn’t. But at least I can say that I did it before it was cool. The rise of social media and self- development gurus have made sure that we needed to relearn a lot of obvious lessons and it’s kind of sad. I mean who doesn’t know that you shouldn’t give a fuck about things you can’t control or people’s opinion in general. That isn’t groundbreaking yet it became a bestseller. I loved the book since I liked the writing style but it seemed like people were blown away by this book. Read More

Meditation has been on the rise lately. It’s the next big thing and you can download at least 4000 apps to hear somebody silently whisper in your ear for a certain amount of time while you’re supposed to just sit there. I meditated for about 3 years and I stopped from one day on the other. I just had an insight that some people seem to miss out on.  In Thailand, I was getting ready to meditate, so I sat down and suddenly told myself “this is stupid, I’m done with this”. Did meditation help me along the way? I think so to be honest. It helped me realize that I was breathing in the wrong way (chest breathing instead of belly breathing). Aside from that, there are a lot of so-called benefits, but I’ve never experienced one of them. Weird right? Not one of them in 3 years. I think other people have no clue what the benefits are either. They’re just riding the hype train. Read More

Do you have an abundance mindset? I applaud you if you’ve got one! But chances are you’re not even aware of the existence of this kind of mindset. You see most people have a scarcity mindset and that mindset makes things mostly worse. The scarcity mindset will make sure that you live in a constant state of fear or grief. They’re either afraid of something they might lose or they’ve lost it and can’t handle the fact that they’ve lost it. That’s not healthy and that’s why I want to introduce the abundance mindset right now. I’ll explain to you how I implemented this mindset in my own life and how you can as well.

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