You’ll have to take responsibility at some point in your life. Sounds logical doesn’t it but many people avoid it like the plague. I’m not going to write an introduction this time. I’m going to share a story back from the 1700s (I think) which lead to this blog.

I called on Dr. Johnson one morning, when Mrs. Williams, the blind lady, was conversing with him. She was telling him where she had dined the day before. “There were several gentlemen there,” said she, “and when some of them came to the tea-table, I found that there had been a good deal of hard drinking.” She closed this observation with a common and trite moral reflection; which, indeed, is very ill-founded, and does great injustice to animals — “I wonder what pleasure men can take in making beasts of themselves.” “I wonder, Madam,” replied the Doctor, “that you have not the penetration to see the strong inducement to this excess; for he who makes a beast of himself gets rid of the pain of being a man.”

• Anecdotes of the Revd. Percival Stockdale; collected in “Johnsonian Miscellanies

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I’m a big advocate of living a balanced life but how many people are living like that? It’s hard to live like that. Especially in this day and age. People judge if you try to live balanced but you can’t be fulfilled if you’re neglecting this. You can’t be happy if you’re not fulfilled. This blog is the result of people who found it weird that I decided to walk a dog every day during my 2-week vacation. They would have done other things. It’s easy to “judge” others but they never asked me why I decided to do it. They just had an opinion and decided to share it. That’s something that most people do a lot lately. Well, they just shove it into my face regardless if I care or not. Hint: I mostly don’t. Read More

I’m not anti-fun! Well, I officially sound like a 50-year-old with a giant midlife crisis who raises two teenagers. Damn, that wasn’t on my goal list. I’m 25 and don’t want to face a midlife crisis. But I’m not anti-fun and this is for real. I just don’t like it when people use fun as a way to escape their reality. People seem to misinterpret this. They assume that I never have fun. Most people assume that I’m always training or blogging. I indeed do this the majority of the time. But does that turn me into a boring person?! Why aren’t you curious instead of judgemental?! But I’m not here to convince you that I’m fun. The reasons why are pretty obvious. First of all, I don’t care what you think of me. Second of all, the concept of fun is bound to your perception of it.

We might have different perceptions of the word fun. Anyways, I’m not anti-fun! I’m anti- escapism. Let’s get into it. Read More

You should unplug and not even from time to time. You should unplug every single day! People these days are always staring at their phones or walking with their headphones on. I mostly walk with headphones on as well but I’m not always listening to music. Sometimes I just put them on without listening to music and then I face my thoughts. Because you’re fucked if you’re not able to tell why you feel a certain way or think about something in a certain way. Constantly listening to music, staring at your phone… these are all subtle forms of escapism. Just look at what people do when they’re bored or face an awkward moment in a conversation. They’ll pick up the phone to get some dopamine, they want to feel good and keep on feeling good. Because that’s what life about these days isn’t it?

We all have to be happy 100% of the time on Insecuretagram. Being unhappy is something that people in the ’50s did! People who think like this have no clue what they’re talking about. Never heard of the stages of life? Anyways here’s the reason why you should unplug. Read More

Ever heard about the beauty of simplicity? It’s like the opposite of complexity and complexity results in chaos. It’s also a waste of time. But most people don’t want simplicity. They’re craving the complexity because they’re just living in a materialistic world! I’m a simple guy and I don’t care to be honest. I do not need all that fancy stuff that most people seem to worship. It’s funny because most people don’t get why they buy stuff. They buy it to satisfy their ego. They just want to impress others and that’s why they buy all the fancy overpriced stuff. To post on Insecuretagram. There’s just one big problem. Other people think like that as well. So they’re so focused on their own that they don’t even notice your stuff.

It must be pretty disappointing. Why don’t you take the other approach? You don’t gain anything by making things more complex. Everybody owns way too much stuff these days. But nobody seems to be aware of it. Read More

Ever had a wake-up call? You’re probably thinking about it right now and your answer will be either yes or no. “Maybe” can’t be an answer. You had it, didn’t need it or completely denied it. That’s it. I had two wake-up calls where I’m aware of. Well, 3. But maybe there were a lot more. I had 2 burn-outs in a single year, but I had suicidal tendencies the second time that I faced a burn-out. But I also had to take pills to control my heart rate and blood pressure. I was 22 when it happened. It’s not normal and I even believe that being unhappy for long periods is completely unnatural. You need to be aware of how you feel and how you act.

These things tell a lot about you. The only problem is that you postpone the pain by numbing your pain. I did this as well in the past because it was the easy way out. Turns out that the easy way out isn’t the best way to take. Read More

Would you ever like to meet the 18-year-old version of yourself? It would be great right? See yourself as the little kid that you once were. Just seeing how ignorant you once were or maybe you’ll see that you’re still the same? It’s possible, some people rarely ever change. Indeed, they rarely do. Just look around you, some people even look the same and do the same things. Some people are extremely afraid of change. They’re afraid of getting out of their comfort zone. It’s hard to accept this fact and it only becomes harder as you get older. But I’ve preached enough. Let’s start this blog off right. Let’s take a good look in the mirror. Read More

I had two weeks of vacation and sadly enough they’re over now. I took some time off blogging because that was the right thing according to my heart (more on that later). So for two weeks I didn’t blog and didn’t go to my normal job. So what did I do? Well, I learned a lot during this period and I decided to write about it to reflect upon it one more time. These are life lessons that might benefit you as well. It’s up to you to take action and so something with it. I’m just about to share what I learned. Enjoy. Read More

People like to throw an insult at each other. Don’t ask me why but it seems like some people just like to take others down. Well, I do get it now. Most people are complete assholes. But I’m not here to insult people so let’s start this blog off with a funny story. I went to watch the second half of Belgium- England with friends. I skipped the first half to make sure that I could train at home. So I walked through the crowd and I recognized all the people whom I had been in high school with. They hadn’t changed a bit. They all looked the same and I hadn’t seen some of them in 6 years. Shit hit the fan when my ex-girlfriend crossed my group.

She noticed me but didn’t recognize me until she looked around and saw my friends. Suddenly my exes her friends were pointing at me. Suddenly she and her friends knew who I was. I have changed a lot and I keep on changing. Something physical changes about me every time I grow as a person (strange but true). So what’s the insult that nobody can use on me but I can use them? Read More

Can you be selfish in a good way? Yes, it’s completely possible! I’ve noticed that a lot of people these days put their own needs on the backburner. They put themselves second and wonder why they get run over all the time. Well, the reason why is pretty easy. You’re not true to you and it only gets harder if you don’t work on that matter. At one point in time, you’ll have to realize a very simple principle: it’s me first. It’s you first and not your girlfriend, wife, family, friends or whatever you put in front of you. So now you can assume that I’m a big egocentric maniac but hear me out on this one. Being selfish doesn’t mean that you don’t share and treat everybody like they’re below you.

It’s just making yourself, your goals and your happiness a priority. People who don’t get this have a lot to learn. Read More