Do you want to become tougher? Good, you’re at the right address. This is the guide that will make you tougher once and for all. Most people link toughness to the dumbest things. There’s a difference between becoming tougher and acting like an idiot. Just take a look at the tough people and you’ll notice that most of them aren’t doing dumb things. Being tougher means that you’re becoming a tougher version of yourself and that’s what life is all about. Life’s a test and you should do everything to make sure that you can pass the damn test. Most people are trying to act tougher as well. Who doesn’t know a guy that suddenly bought a motorcycle and a leather jacket while it doesn’t fit him at all?
We’re all eagerly trying to be some else while you need to be yourself. You have to be true to you and do what you’re afraid to do. You’ll find out that life isn’t that hard as most people portray it. Life isn’t hard at all, you’re making it hard. It’s all a matter of perspective. Let’s dive into the guide to toughness.
Become tougher by unleashing the power of mushin
Most people aren’t familiar with the term mushin because they’re not into martial arts. Mushin means that you’re formless and shapeless. It’s called the power of nowhere in the Western world. Most people will realize this power (check out the link to get an in-depth description of the power of now). Many of you are probably wondering how you can become tougher by applying mushin. Well, the answer is pretty simple: you’ll handle mistakes a lot quicker and better. Just take a look a what you regret or what haunts you. Just pick a mistake and try to guess when it happened. 5 seconds ago? One week ago or one month ago? It doesn’t matter when it happened because it’s all in the past. Learn to deal with failure and move on. A real man can admit his mistakes but regrets some of them.
The man’s man doesn’t regret a single thing. He’s the one that wouldn’t go to the past to give his younger self some advice. Be a man’s man instead of a man. It’s that simple.
Become tougher by leaving the comfort zone
Be tough, be bold and embrace the cold
The comfort zone is probably the most beautiful place on earth if you’re planning on achieving nothing. Your life will probably be like this: you wake up after snoozing for an hour. After that, you go to a job you don’t like but you won’t look for another one because you make money. You come home to a house you hate and you’re in a shitty relation (your fault because you prefer to stay in the comfort zone). You watch some television till you need to go to sleep and you repeat. You don’t kickstart your day the right way.
Most people have no clue how they should leave their comfort zone but don’t worry I got this. Alex comes to the rescue with this guide on how to leave it.
The easiest way is to become a cold warrior instead of a warm warrior. The cold isn’t that bad, you just need to get used to it. After a while, it’s easy to adapt to almost every temperature. You’ll be less sick when you’re able to endure the cold. So what comfort zone?
Become tougher by reading and studying more
Yes, you’ve read it correctly. You need to read and learn more and by more I mean a lot more. I read 37 pages of a book every day and I’ll keep on doing it till I die. You must develop the mind to become tougher. You’ll turn into a complaining pussy if you’re not developing your mind. Most people don’t get that you need to learn to read. You need to turn it into a habit before you can do it every day. You won’t regret it in the end. Here are 5 books that will make you fall in love with reading again (according to me).
How To Win Friends And Influence People by Dale Carnegie
Meditations by Marcus Aurelius (read here why)
Think And Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
The first book got me back into reading. Don’t judge the book by its cover or title. The book contains some golden tips which most people aren’t aware of. You’ll come across as more charismatic after you’ve read this book. The good news is that you won’t have to perform an act to be it. I would make every high school student read this book if I was in charge. They would have to read it again in college or university. It contains a lot of forgotten values. I’m going to read this book again this year. I’m going to read all of them again except The Art Of War and Tools Of Titans since I just finished those this year.
Become tougher by applying the martial arts mentality
This simply means that you’ve got to act like a beginner even in matters that you’ve already done your whole life. Sometimes you’ll learn more from a 4-year-old than from a 50-year-old.
You don’t believe me, do you? I was sitting on a bus and a 50-year-old guy was constantly complaining about everything. I guess that we can conclude that the whole world was doomed according to him. Suddenly a 4-year-old girl (I assume that she was 4 years old) ask him “sir why do you hate so much? My mother always learned me that I should smile.” The guy his ego was crushed and he got really mad. The ego was the big enemy that stopped him from learning a lesson. He got really mad at her mother. He told her that she should learn how to raise a child but the mother didn’t do anything wrong. The girl was right and he knew it all along.
The lesson here is that everybody can teach you something. You need to stop being ignorant and start learning every single day.
So always act like a white belt in martial arts class but fight like someone from your rank.
Treat your girl/wife every day like it’s your first date. She will do the same otherwise it’ll end pretty soon.
Never stop learning because you stop living the moment that you drop the white belt mentality.
Become tougher by never saying sorry again
Sorry is the most overvalued word there is in this day and age. People fuck up, say sorry and everything is forgotten. Well, that’s what most people assume but it doesn’t solve anything. You need to be completely honest when you made a mistake. Tell people why you made a mistake, what went through your head and try to find out why they reacted in some way. You can apologize after that in a better way. You’ll feel sorry if you know how you’ve hurt the other person. You’ll become better friends or lovers when you’re applying this way of saying sorry.
That’s what the man’s man does. He’s the alpha among the other men and they’re all trying to be like him. The jealousy is real towards the man’s man. That’s the way of men but not the way of the man’s man. The man’s man doesn’t envy anyone, he’s perfectly happy with who he is.
Become tougher by reading this blog
Yes, you’ve read it correctly. More articles cover toughness but I didn’t mention them all. Just scroll through some older articles and maybe you’ll find something that makes you think twice about how you’re living your life. I suggest that you read this motivational post first.
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