Let’s talk about unsuccessful people. Yesterday I spoke about lazy people and the fact that I don’t get them. Now I’m going to give you 7 traits of unsuccessful people. The title of this blog is a reference to the book the 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People. I liked it and suggest that everybody reads it. I became a better human after I read that book. Well, the second time. I disliked it the first time, to be honest. First, we’ve got to ask ourselves a question: what is the definition of someone successful? Being wealthy and rich is not the answer. You’ve got rich people who’re extremely unhappy so that can’t be the answer. True success lies in living a happy life. That’s a true success.
Unsuccessful people and the law of attraction
They attract what they are: unsuccessful or losers. They don’t mind spending time with these people. You’ll only hang around complainers if you’re a complainer yourself. You can’t attract opposites. I don’t attract people who complain all the time. They don’t like me because I don’t complain but take action. I don’t like them because they don’t take action and complain. It’s a different lifestyle but I don’t want to have the victim mindset.
Just ask yourself who’s the better friend in this situation: the guy who asks you to go out to chase women and get completely wasted to feel better or the one who wants to go train with you to make you feel better. I suggest that you take an honest look at your lifestyle if you didn’t choose the latter.
Unsuccessful people love television
Television is a great tool for people who’ve got no clue how to spend their time. Sure it’s fine to watch a movie now and then. But it’s a completely different story when you watch television all night or all day. There are better ways to use your time in my opinion. Read a book or learn something new. You’ll feel a lot better afterward.
Unsuccessful people never listen to others
Unsuccessful only listen to themselves. Those are the kind people who’ll ask you advice and then disagree with you as soon as you give it. Those people are pretty close-minded and their giant ego makes sure that they never learn. They’ll only be satisfied if you accept their opinion.
I worked for a supplement company and a woman asked me advice on how to lose weight. I asked about her diet and she ate healthily but she didn’t eat fat at all. So I advised her to eat more fat so that she could lose weight. She became furious and told me that I knew nothing about it. “I’m already fat, I don’t need the extra fat,” she told me. She made a scene for the whole shopping mall. I just wished her a nice day and didn’t give her attention anymore. You don’t have to agree with everything that I say but she could have asked me why I gave the advice. Instead, she forced me to listen to her mumbo jumbo. Fun times.
Unsuccessful people never learn
This can be interpreted in two ways. They never learn a lesson but they never learn something new either. I wrote two blogs with life lessons that I learned over a year (read the latest one here). Most people can’t even recall one single lesson over a year. Most people don’t learn and they just get dumber over time. I’m not kidding.
The second thing is that they don’t learn. People link learning to school and they hate it thanks to the educational system. These people are great at reproducing facts but can’t cope with things like failure or adversity because they didn’t learn this stuff in school. They also don’t learn anything new because they assume that they’ll have a high paid job 5 years after they left college/university. It takes some people a whole lifetime to figure these things out. You can’t know how to live life, you learn how to live life. I can guarantee you that it’ll be filled with failures and adversity. You’ll face those a lot more than successes.
Unsuccessful people are nice guys aka jerks
Unsuccessful people are mostly friendly to others when they need something. Why don’t you try to be a good person instead of being a nice person? There’s a big difference but it also makes a big difference in your life. I’m not claiming that it’s always easy because some people can get on your nerves but nobodies perfect. Be the best version of yourself that you can be. You’ll get a lot more out of life.
Unsuccessful people only talk but never walk
There’s a great saying that goes like: walk the walk and talk the talk. In other words, don’t say things that you can’t back up. Unsuccessful people are great at claiming that they’re going to do things. Those are probably the ones who share all their New Years’ resolutions in a drunken state. The sad part is that most people just don’t get to the part where they start working towards their goal. So they just share a lot of empty words. The strange thing is that most of them claim that it wasn’t their thing. How can you even know that something wasn’t your thing if you’ve never tried it before? Some people are great at lying to themselves. I seriously wonder how someone can believe this kind of bullshit.
Unsuccessful people are quitters
There’s a point in life where you’ll fail at something. It’s just inevitable but that’s the point where you learn a new lesson and keep going. Never quit, that’s it. I once lost 15000 euros and a car (read the whole story here) and I didn’t even cry about it. It sucked for sure but I moved on and made the most out of it. I defiantly learned a valuable lesson there. Besides opportunities are like buses. There will always come to a new one. You don’t want to miss the second chance that life gives to you.
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A lot of wisdom here! Well played with it being the opposite of that book.
Thanks man!